Whether you attend church weekly, troll the latest tele-evangelist's podcasts, or struggle in your spiritual beliefs, I think we should address some assumptions about God.
"God never gives you more than you can handle".
Bad theology. What this is assuming is that God is the one who brought this pain upon you. Maybe the trials you are going through is because of a consequence of your actions. Maybe it is due to someone else's actions. Life happens. But let us not forget that we are in a epic battle of Good Vs. Evil. Darkness Vs. Light.
Life is tough. But be very cautious where you place God in your issues. God is in the redeeming business, friends. He heals the brokenhearted. He gives hope to those who lost hope in others. He makes ALL THINGS NEW.
"Oh, you are feeling depressed. Just pray."
Prayer is legit. But when people are depressed, they can start with prayer. However, what if that lingering feeling that they are having is still present? Maybe they need medications? Maybe they ate a bad piece of pizza that night? And maybe they need someone to walk beside them through their period(s) of darkness.
Where do you seek wisdom? God? Friends? Family? And the places you seek wisdom says much about desiring true growth. Seek out people that will tell you the truth---even if it hurts. Additionally, depression is a mental and spiritual problem and it can be sensitive for some to discuss. Don't categorize people with mental health issues because we all have mental health issues---just many people are not officially diagnosed.
"God is watching us.....from a distance". (reference to an 80's song)
This assumption states that God is far away. He is watching us from his flat screen tv while also watching the Super Bowl on another tv. Yikes! Do not fall for this assumption. God is present here in our lives. If you do not believe me, watch the birth of a baby. Go witness someone who has overcome an addiction. And attend the funeral of an amazing person. God is here.......we are just too busy to feel him.
If you want to hear from God, put down the smartphone. Spend less time on Facebook aka GossipBook. Seek out some books or the Bible. Talk to people who talk to God. They will tell you stories of deliverance and stories of joy.