One of my first jobs when I graduated from college was at a daycare. I worked in the Latchkey program (before and after-school care) with 4th and 5th graders. I also worked at the church on the same campus so it was a good opportunity to minister to many different families. If you have kids or ever worked with kids then you are familiar with the art-form known as tattling.
Tattling is an ancient practice developed by children (and maybe adults) many moons ago. According to the Together Against Bullying Website, here are the differences between tattling and telling.......
The child tattling wants to get someone else in trouble or avoid blame.
The child tattling may have something to gain; attention, popularity.
No one is hurt or in danger.
It is not an important problem, and can be solved without an adult.
The child threatens to tell on another in order to control the other child.
The child telling wants to keep themselves or others safe.
The child telling is concerned about safety.
The problem is important and urgent!
Someone may be hurt or in danger.
An adult is needed to help solve the problem.
The week after Christmas becomes an annual performance evaluation. We monitor the past year and many times we found failure because of others. How dare they? If only they had (insert some unrealistic expectation here) !!!
Worry about yourself (W.A.Y.).
"W.A.Y." is what one of my coworkers (Donna) used to tell our Latchkey kids when they crossed over into tattling mode. It is ironic that I remember this from 10 years ago; however, I believe it speaks volumes to where we are at in our own contentment and responsibilities.
This year probably did not unfold the way you wish it had. We are often looking for cute little formulas that will guarantee us the perfect year. Christmas doesn't help because people try to act nice for a few days to make up for being fools the rest of the year. Your year might not have gone as planned but we can learn a few things when we W.A.Y.............
No one is perfect--including me and you. We all messed up this year. We said things we shouldn't have and assumed things were going to happen that only happen in Disney movies. What can each of us learn from the last year in regards to our relationships? Remember...relationships are a two-way street.
We were created to be original. When God created you, He gave you a unique fingerprint. No one else has this fingerprint. Just as God has uniquely made you, He also wants us to use our gifts and not try to fit the mold that others have created. I am not advocating for people to rebel and be antisocial. On the contrary, whatever you gifting is....bring it to your community that you are in. We need more artistic movements in our churches, local athletes teaching our children how to balance academics and athletics, and successful business owners giving people real-life tips.
Everyone falls. When we WAY, we soon realize that everyone falls down. Not everyone gets back up and those that do utilize certain supports or methods for their comeback. Worrying about yourself should not make you greedy; it should expand your vision to see who is in your inner circle. If you are continually a taker, you will dry out the resources and people around you. If you are continually a giver, you will exhaust yourself and lose yourself in everyone else's daily lives. Look for a balance as 2017 approaches.
Love starts at home. You must love yourself before you can truly love others. The things that are in your heart will eventually come out of your mouth (said by the great philosopher Jesus).