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Dads-YOU Are Needed!!!
In case you lived under a rock......today is Father's Day. Today is also the day that Hallmark makes millions of dollars off of $5 cards, balloons, and "man candles". I am just saying!!!!
The name "father" and "daddy" carry many definitions. Christians refer to God as the Father. Father is the name of the dude that helped bring us into this world.....including your momma and God. Daddy is a term of endearment that younger kids use to express love for their dads.
A father's (or dad's) involvement in the lives of his child(ren) is crucial to that child's development. The development of a child (physicall, emotionally, spiritually, socially) is very dependent on the relationship between the child and the father. Ladies, I am not discounting your role in the realm that is known as parenthood. You are vital and you are needed. But a father's role is unique in the following ways.....
When a dad is involved, he offers strength and security to the home. So often in the Church, we have confused this with guys that are extra muscular and/or know how to be Tim The Tool Man (refer to the show "Home Improvement"). In fact, I worked in a church once that equated your manliness with how good you were at fixing things. If you could not fix things, then you were not a man. They even had Scripture to back it up. (sigh)
A child needs to know they can feel safe at home and beyond. A father's bond creates this. This also means that dad will make unpopular decisions at time. Dad may so no to bad influences and certain things that he does not want in his home because it is not good for the child and family. Oh, and a child should also know dad will kick someone's anus if their home is invaded.
View on Women--How a guy (or dad) views women is huge for his children. If dad is always out chasing every tail in the neighborhood--expect the children to follow in dad's footsteps when they grow up. We MUST be teaching our kids (especially daughters) that true beauty comes from within--their heart. Anyone can look like a Beauty Queen but the true self comes from within. Are we teaching our kids to love people that are of different race, color, AND RELIGION than we are?
Dads of daughters: We must teach our girls how to be modest in dress. She does not need to dress up like a grandmother; however, we need to teach our little ladies to dress appropriately. I know from having a daughter that alot of clothes companies make the girls stuff (even the toddlers!) extremely short. Don't shop there then.
View on God/Faith--Our children will grow up one day. Our views on faith will carry on with them. Our teachings must be legit. Let me clarify something. When kids are older, encourage them to find their own church. I am not saying they cannot go to yours but there is something freeing about grown children finding their "own place" spiritually. Now, if the children grown up and ACTUALLY get fed spiritually at the church they have attended forever, then so be it!!! However, let's encourage our kids to be fed spiritually and not just be comfy adult church mice. Cause there is no fruit to that.
When we are teaching our kids about Jesus--make it personal. Structured prayers are great here and there---but REALLY teach your kids how to talk to Jesus as in a conversation. And.......a relationship with Jesus is more than church attendance. Let's not teach our kids that just stamping the Jesus card on Sundays for one hour is enough. That is why our world has such an issue with Christianity. We are not bearing much fruit to those around us because we don't want to "look different".
Work/School--As dads, we must teach our kids to work hard at school or work. We must also teach our kids that they will not always win at everything. When I played sports as a kid and teenager, you only received a trophy if you won the championship or 2nd place. Now, everyone gets a trophy. This ideal has made many kids feel entitled. Yes, life is not fair. Yes, there are winners and losers. Dads, it is time to teach kids WHAT matters. Work hard. Study hard. And when kids grow up and look for educational opportunities or work, let's guide them to what they are CALLED TO DO--not what we want them to do. Take a look around at the parents who micromanaged their kids when teens and young adults. They went to college where mom and dad forced them. They chose a profession that would please their parents. They are miserable because they followed someone else's script. As parents, we must teach them to be who they are---in Jesus. Who cares what the world thinks? Screw it. What good does it do to look like everyone else? That's boring.
Fathers, daddys, dads, pops, papi---You are needed! Your kids need you. Your families need you. Our world needs you.